Loving-Relationships.ca | Renewing Love Relationships Is Possible at Loving-Relationships.ca!

Love Relationship Couples

I’m not that old, so I don’t know for sure, but it seems like these days
we make everything so much more complicated than it needs to be. That is
especially true when it comes to relationships, couples seem to find it so
hard to figure out the problem and many times the problem is a small and
simple thing.

One analogy I often use is that of a stone wall. Think of your
relationship. Every time you do or say something that hurts or annoys your
partner, it’s like adding another stone to the wall. A couple stones here
and a few stones there don’t matter all that much, you can still easily
step over the wall to be close to your partner.

And, if you apologize, and make permanent changes, to the behaviors that
caused your partner pain or annoyance, you can even remove a stone
sometimes.

But if you do like most couples do, and you continue to add stones after
stones after stones, and you don’t remove any, you will find it virtually
impossible to connect with your partner. By that point it will be very
difficult and maybe even impossible to tear down the wall and have a
meaningful relationship with your partner.

The trick is to make sure your wall never gets too high. How? Easy, talk.
Just talk, don’t yell, don’t shout, don’t accuse…talk.

It’s very important each person in the relationship remembers that the
other person has feelings too. When you are hurt and upset it’s very easy
to make everything all about ‘you’. That won’t work.

If you take the time to realize that your partner has their point of view
and remember, this has absolutely nothing to do with right and wrong, it’s
simply about recognizing that each person has their own view of what has
happened and you need to let them express that view without getting
defensive or upset, you might actually find that you are on the same
page…just a different sentence!

I’ve had that very same experience. My friend and I had very heated
discussions but once we calmed down and actually talked, and listened, we
realized though we were saying it in different ways we were both saying
basically the same thing!

Once you come to that place it will help you take a stone out of your wall
and it can also help you in the future if you can remember that you and
your partner probably aren’t all that far off from each other, you’re just
expressing yourselves differently.

For the most part no matter what your age, gender, religious, or sexual
preferences, everyone wants to feel love, respected, appreciated, and
understood. You want that and so does your partner, when it comes to
relationships, couples will be much better off if they never lose sight of
that.

If you try to deal with your partner with those things in mind,
and they do the same for you, your relationship will be much smoother, and
there will be a lot fewer stones in your wall.

"Get Your Ex Back" With "The Ex Back System"